Aftercare

 

“Losing someone you love through death is painful and personal. You soon learn that grief can’t be confined to a method, time frame, or event; it’s a process. Grief is an unpredictable, solitary, and unforgettable experience, one that can’t be healed in a moment, a month, or even a lifetime.  Grief ebbs and flows, like the swelling waves of an ocean.  One moment we feel engulfed by a wave of sorrow.  The next we are lifted by waves of hope and acceptance.  Grief is an irregular tide that often takes us by surprise.  How you response to it determines the quality and direction of your life.” Kathe Wunnenberg

Anderson Funeral & Cremation Services is concerned with helping you navigate through your journey of grief.   We have partnered with Patricia Cox, R.N.,A.C.S.W., Ph.D. to offer families grief counseling.  Patricia has a very diverse background as a counselor that includes over 35 years in therapeutic settings with children, adolescents, adults, families, and couples in both individual and group counseling.  She sees clients working on issues like depression, anxiety, life transitions, and grief and loss.  Patricia has experience as a Registered Nurse, Teacher, Clinical Social Worker, and she holds a Ph.D. in Psychology.  She has also completed two years training in Gestalt Therapy, and three years in Psychosynthesis.  She currently maintains a Private Practice as a Psychotherapist and Family Counselor.

Patricia Cox R.N., A.C.S.W., Ph.D.

Patricia Cox
R.N., A.C.S.W., Ph.D.

At Anderson Funeral & Cremation Services, our care continues long after the funeral to help you heal in the weeks and months after the loss of your loved one.

At Anderson Funeral & Cremation Services, we are here to help you, whenever you need us.

 


Interactive Grief Support

GuidingGrief-LogoAt Anderson Funeral & Cremation Services, we are here for you before, during and after the funeral. We know how difficult the months and years after losing a loved one can be, and we are here to help.

Anderson provides exceptional bereavement resources to the community year round; from a complete grief library to a variety of support groups and special programs. Losing a loved one is always hard and during holidays, it can be more difficult. We are here for you whenever you need us.

 

 


 Grief Resources

 

 

ALPHA

A support Group for Widowers and Widows. This group is sponsored by OSF St. Anthony Medical Center Auxiliary. They meet the last Saturday of each month at 5:30 P.M. in St. Anthony Medical Center Cafeteria. For more information contact Bob or Peggy at (815)-633-1642.

 

“Glory Girls”

A Christian based group for widows that meets the 1st Saturday of the month for a potluck gathering. Glory girls also meet on the 2nd and 4th Friday of the month at a designated restaurant and the 3rd Thursday of the month at a members home. For more information and locations

please contact Nita Osbern  (815)-871-2569.

 

Grief Share

Christian based grief support groups offered at areas Churches. For more information please contact Barb (815)-316-2700.

 

Group Hope

A Support group for those challenged by mental health issues. Please visit www.grouphope.org and www.dbsalliance.org or contact Charles Smith at (815)-398-9628.

 

Healing Hearts

Healing Hearts is a non-profit support group for parents who have experienced the loss of a child through ectopic pregnancy, miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death. Every meeting includes independent sharing based on concerns and interests expressed by the participating parents, in addition to specific topics. Our goal is to ease the family’s journey through the grieving process.

The Healing Hearts group meets the third Monday of most months at 6:30 p.m. (except during the summer and December) at The Haven Network, 124 N Water Street, Suite 201, Rockford, IL 61107. There are no dues or fees required for participation.  for more information visit www.thehavennetwork.org or call them at 815-962-1512.

 

Heart to Heart

The Pediatrics Unit at Rockford Memorial Hospital facilitates a support group – Heart to Heart –  to help parents cope with the death of their child.  The group meets bi-weekly for 16 weeks and utilizes readings from Dr. Alan Wolfelt for discussions.  Call 815-971-5309 for more information.

 

Hospice Care of America

Open ended Grief Group meets every Wednesday at 1:00 P.M. at Hospice Care of America, 3815 N. Mulford, Rockford, IL 61114. No Registration Required. For more information on Hospice Care of America visit www.hospicecareofamerica.com or contact Barb Martin at (815)-316-2700.

 

Mothers of Adult Children

A support group that meets the 3rd Wednesday of the month at 2:30 P.M. at Fairhaven Christian Retirement Center. For more information please Call Karon Pfile at (815)-636-4750.

 

OSF Hospice

Support and encouragement are available to you at OSF Home Care Office located at 5501 E. state Street, Rockford, IL. Groups meet every Monday from 3:30-5:00 P.M.. For more information please contact Alice Inman at (815)-381-6374.

 

Ray of Hope – After Suicide

Support Group for all survivors of suicide. Meets on the 2nd and 4th Thursday of the month from 7 – 8:30 P.M. at Gloria Dei Lutheran Church 4700 Augustana Drive, Fireside Room. For more information please contact Nita Osbern at (815)-871-2569

 

Tear Soup

Meets the 4th Thursday of each month at Medina Manor Center 402 S. Main St. Durand, IL from 6:30-8:30 P.M.. And the 3rd Tuesday of each month At Hospice Care Center of America, 520 Main Street, Suite A, Pecatonica, IL. For more information all hospice Care of America at (815)-316-2700

 

The Haven Network, The Northern Illinois Perinatal Hospice and Bereavement Network

Perinatal hospice outreach for families experiencing the death of their pre-born or newly born baby. 124 N. Water Street, Suite 030 Rockford, IL 61107. For more information visit online at www.thehavennetwork.org , email at [email protected] or contact Kathy Way at (815)-962-1512

 

Visiting Nurses Association Hospice

Call for bereavement support or information at (815)-971-3748

 

Reading Material:

Where Do I Go From Here?  Bold Living After Unwanted Change-(Miriam Neff)   More than a “survival” book, Where Do I go From Here raises the bar in life after loss to include love, laughter, and adventure. This is a book about facing forward, not backwards. It is about purposely moving into a bolder and broader future.  Includes practical help and chapter discussion questions for individual or group study.

A Grief Observed—(C.S. Lewis)  Written after his wife’s tragic death as a way of surviving the “mad midnight moment,” A Grief Observed is C.S. Lewis’s honest reflection on the fundamental issues of life, death, and faith in the midst of loss. This work contains his concise, genuine reflections on that period: “Nothing will shake a man — or at any rate a man like me — out of his merely verbal thinking and his merely notional beliefs. He has to be knocked silly before he comes to his senses. Only torture will bring out the truth. Only under torture does he discover it himself.” This is a beautiful and unflinchingly honest record of how even a stalwart believer can lose all sense of meaning in the universe, and how he can gradually regain his bearings.

God’s Healing for Life’s Losses: How to Find Hope When You’re Hurting (Grief Share Presents)- (Robert W. Kellemen)   Are you ready for real and raw, honest and hopeful conversation about suffering, loss, and grief – from a Christian perspective? Here are real answers, for real people, with real struggles. When life’s losses invade your world, learn how to face suffering face-to-face with God.
Written in a gift book format, this book also includes two built-in application/discussion guides making it perfect for individual or group study.—This is a GriefShare book.

A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows through Loss—(Jerry L. Sittser)  Loss came suddenly for Jerry Sittser. In an instant, a tragic car accident claimed three generations of his family: his mother, his wife, and his young daughter. While most of us will not experience such a catastrophic loss in our lifetime, all of us will taste it. And we can, if we choose, know as well the grace that transforms it. A Grace Disguised plumbs the depths of sorrow, whether due to illness, divorce, or the loss of someone we love. The circumstances are not important; what we do with those circumstances is. In coming to the end of ourselves, we can come to the beginning of a new life―one marked by spiritual depth, joy, compassion, and a deeper appreciation of simple blessings.

A Grace Revealed: How God Redeems the Story of Your Life-(Jerry L. Sittser)  Twenty years ago, Jerry Sittser lost his daughter, wife, and mother in a car accident. He chronicled that tragic experience in A Grace Disguised, a book that has become a classic on the topic of grief and loss. Now he asks: How do we live meaningfully, even fruitfully, in this world and at the same time long for heaven? How do we respond to the paradox of being a new creature in Christ even though we don’t always feel or act like one? How can we trust God is involved in our story when our circumstances seem to say he isn’t?  While A Grace Disguised explored how the soul grows through loss, A Grace Revealed brings the story of Sittser’s family full circle, revealing God’s redeeming work in the midst of circumstances that could easily have destroyed them. As Sittser reminds us, our lives tell a good story after all. A Grace Revealed will helps us understand and trust that God is writing a beautiful story in our own lives.

Grieving the Loss of  A Loved One—A Devotional of Hope—(Kathe Wunnenberg)  Death is an inevitable and constant part of life, yet those who grieve often feel misunderstood and alone in their journey, says Kathe Wunnenberg, author of Grieving the Loss of a Loved One. This compassionate book acts as a daily devotional companion to hurting people. Designed for adult readers of all ages and stages in the grieving process, it is sensitively written by an author who suffered three miscarriages and the death of an infant son. She knows from firsthand experience that there are no easy answers for those who mourn. Sixty devotions cover the many stages of grieving, including readings for holidays, birthdays, and special occasions, when grief can be particularly painful. Readers will walk away from the short thematic devotions and feel validated, connected to someone who knows how they truly feel, and with renewed hope in God. Friends and family members who sincerely want to help the grieving can give this book as a meaningful, beneficial expression of their love and concern.

When the Darkness Will Not Lift: Doing What We Can While We Wait for God–and Joy-(John Piper) “It is utterly crucial that in our darkness we affirm the wise, strong hand of God to hold us, even when we have no strength to hold him.” John Piper

Even the most faithful, focused Christians can encounter periods of depression and spiritual darkness when joy seems to stay just out of reach. It can happen because of sin, satanic assault, distressing circumstances, or hereditary and other physical causes. In When the Darkness Will Not Lift, John Piper aims to give some comfort and guidance to those experiencing spiritual darkness.  Readers will gain insight into the physical side of depression and spiritual darkness, what it means to wait on the Lord in a time of darkness, how unconfessed sin can clog our joy, and how to minister to others who are living without light. Piper uses real-life examples and sensitive narrative to show readers abundant reason to hope that God will pull them out of the pit of despair and into the light once again.

Healing Your Grieving Heart—100 Practical Ideas—(Alan D. Wolfelt., Ph.D) With sensitivity and insight, this series offers suggestions for healing activities that can help survivors learn to express their grief and mourn naturally. Acknowledging that death is a painful, ongoing part of life, it explains how people need to slow down, turn inward, embrace their feelings of loss, and seek and accept support when a loved one dies. Each book, geared for mourning adults, teens, or children, provides ideas and action-oriented tips that teach the basic principles of grief and healing. These ideas and activities are aimed at reducing the confusion, anxiety, and huge personal void so that living their lives can begin again.

Understanding Your Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart- (Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D) Explaining the important difference between grief and mourning, this book explores every mourner’s need to acknowledge death and embrace the pain of loss. Also explored are the many factors that make each person’s grief unique and the many normal thoughts and feelings mourners might have. Questions

The Empty  Chair—Handling Grief on Holidays and Special Occations-(Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge, R.N., Ed.D. and Robert C. DeVries, D. Min., Ph.D) Losing a loved one whether a spouse, parent, child, sibling, or friend leaves people feeling overwhelmed and hopeless. Holidays and other special occasions seem to intensify the pain. Whether the occasion is Christmas or Easter, a birthday or anniversary, these celebrations force the bereaved to again face the reality of a loved one’s absence. Susan Zonnebelt Smeenge and Robert C. De Vries know first hand the sorrow of bereavement: Both lost a spouse. Yet as they faced their pain and gleaned insights from their professions Susan is a psychologist, Robert, a minister they found renewed richness on special days that once brought heartache. In The Empty Chair, the authors share a comforting blend of emotional support, spiritual guidance, and personal experience to help readers honor their loved one on important day .

Healing Your Holiday Grief—100 Practical Ideas for Blending Mourning and Celebration During the Holiday Season—(Alan D. Wolfelt. Ph.D)

 

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218 West Hurlbut Avenue, Belvidere, IL 61008
Phone: (815)-544-2616/Fax:(815)-544-5801